If you have ever been pregnant than you know that you get tested for everything under the sun at different times in your pregnancy. While I was pregnant with DD, around week 28 they tested me for glucose and various other things. When my blood work came back, I thankfully wasn't sweet enough to work about gestational diabetes, but I was low on iron. In these kinds of situations some people have a need for iron supplements to help keep their iron levels high and in my case, I needed to start taking these supplements. When I got tested during this pregnancy, I thankfully had high enough iron levels that I didn't need to add any more supplements to my daily regime.
Another thing that is much different the second time around, is that I don't notice that I am pregnant as much. I have been very lucky to not have any morning sickness with either pregnancy, but the second time around I don't have the time to ponder the going ons of my uterus. It is causing the time to fly by much faster. One new thing I have experienced with this pregnancy, is the overwhelming fear of giving birth.
The fear of giving birth, just came on last night and it has been stuck in my head all day. With my first, I had a friend that was also training to be a doula in the room with me and my husband. She was able to keep things nice and calm nd remind me that I was doing well and that I could do it without any drugs. When I got to about five cms and wasn't dilating anymore, probably cause I was so tense and stressed due to the pain of labor, I started calling for drugs, which was something I explicitly didn't want to have. I called for the one thing I am most squeamish about and that is the epidural, the main reason I didn't want one was because of the obviously large needle that has to go into or near my spine. No Thank You. I have a tremendous fear of needles. When I started to ask for one, my doula told me I could do it without it and reminded me that I didn't want one, my husband tried talking me out of it. At that point I just started yelling for a nurse to come in, when she arrived, I asked for some Stadol instead of the epidural. She gave me half a dose and I was able to relax enough to start dilating again. I loved having the extra support of someone there that knew my wishes and helped talk me out of asking for unnecessary things, but this time around she just had her own baby this week and most likely won't be available for our delivery come the middle of October. The only remedy I can come up is to find another doula in our small rural town that could be there for the birth, which would alleviate my fears of giving birth a second time.
I would love to hear from you. Have you had multiple children and did you fear giving birth with any of them more than another? Do you think because we know from the first time how painful it really is that we fear it more the second time?